If there's anything I've learned throughout this sober journey, it's that we're not alone. There are so many people out there that are questioning their relationship with alcohol right this very second. They're tossing around the idea of quitting, they're taking breaks, feeling shameful, feeling confused. Unfortunately, feeling like no one understands what they're going through.
First of all, I understand sister. I've taken those breaks. I've felt shame, I've been so confused. And I've felt totally alone.
We live in this crazy world where we've been brainwashed into thinking that we can't openly talk about our relationship with alcohol without someone branding us with the "A-word". We're embarrassed to say we've developed a bad habit. We're secretly attempting to fix it. But man oh man, what happens when we attend parties, functions, and other social gatherings where people might judge us for NOT drinking?? Are people going to think I'm lame? Are my friends going to stop inviting me places because they don't think I'm fun anymore? What are they saying behind my back?
You guys, what the heck is wrong with that picture? No one questions us when we say we're gluten free, when we quit smoking, have a career change, start a new relationship. But holy moly, if we aren't drinking - cue the crickets and the assumptions. I know it's hard, but we HAVE to stop worrying about what others think or what they might say. Their judgement is simply a reflection of their insecurities. Shame on them for judging us while we're ultimately making a healthy choice. My advice? Screw 'em. Choosing to remove alcohol is a brave, beautiful, wonderful, hard thing to do. If anyone in your circle doesn't support that, than those people are not your people. Read that again.
At the end of the day, you shouldn't be ashamed of your story. Our stories bring us together. They inspire those on the sidelines and I'll tell you what, it can be so freeing and therapeutic to be brave and put yourself out there.